Stress. It is not foreign to any of us. The giant knot in your stomach or tension in your throat that just won’t go away. Stress is a reaction to an immeasurable amount of causes, but for me it is from overcommitting.
It wasn’t until I laid down my commitments on paper until I realized why my brain couldn’t shut off even when I tried to sleep at night…
1) My daytime job as a Government Contractor. We all know by now that this is not my dream career because even though the pay is good, I feel more unsatisfied with my role as the days go on…which is why I could not be happier they approved me to work 80% part-time, down from a full time position (which really isn’t all that different).
2) My part-time night job as a Videographer and Social Media Marketer for a cycling studio. This evolved from a need to use my inner creativity and find somewhere to build my film portfolio. Creating and directing videos for the studio to place on YouTube, and finding materials for Pinterest, Instagram, and Tumblr takes up more time than one would initially think!
3) School. This is the initial reason why I went part-time at my Contracting firm. A little thing called class and filming projects takes more than a couple hours of my day as I pursue a Video Production degree.
4) Coaching. I am obsessed with being a soccer coach to little kids, but I am somewhat relieved there is a break during the winter holidays so I don’t have to constantly rush to the fields right after work.
5) Playing soccer. I. Will. Never. Give. This. Up. Until my knees and back finally give out.
6) Volunteering. In my free time (ha) I am putting together a large fundraiser for a nonprofit dedicated to helping young adults in foster care find adoptive families. This doesn’t feel like work at all, but involves meeting with the founders, vendors, food/drink donators, and writing a million emails to coordinate the bands, 5 artists, and 2 former NFL players to attract a large crowd and raise a significant amount of money.
7) Attending studio filmings/building my portfolio…blogging…my social life…boyfriend.
I am sure there are a few things I left out…but I have now realized I do not know how to simply say “No” to people. You have heard of a little saying called Quantity vs. Quality. I am too proud to say that my quality isn’t affected in all of these activities, but I could probably score another goal or two in my games if I got an extra hour of sleep…
I am in the middle of switching careers so I feel the pressure to say yes to everything. A small opportunity could lead to something big. At least that’s what they say, right? I have found that networking is invaluable. Yes, I have heard it a thousand times, but honestly one conversation has opened multiple doors for me. It is all about just making one phone call – reaching out to a peer when it may be slightly uncomfortable. Comfort never got me anywhere, except in trouble with an entire bag of Famous Amos.
How much is too much? A multitude of new opportunities…does it lead to stomach ulcers or finally landing that dream job? Hard to tell.
I have promised myself I would not take on another activity until I have crossed off a few from my list. I need to find some time to sit down, drink a cup of tea, listen to some amazing 80s music (or terrible 90s music), and watch some football and futbol. Luckily I haven’t committed to taking my crazy amount of activities and piecing them together into some sort of life direction – I can leave that up to the Big Guy.